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These 4 Types of Boundaries Will Improve Your Relationship

Boundaries can feel like something we only do when there is something negative going on that we need to fix. But in fact, setting boundaries can make the best relationships even stronger.

Why do i need boundaries in my relationship?

Do you often find yourself feeling overwhelmed, drained, or taken advantage of, with no boundaries in your relationship, personally or professionally? Are you constantly saying “yes” to others, even when it means sacrificing your own needs and desires? If so, you’re not alone.

Many people struggle with setting and enforcing healthy boundaries, and as a result, they find themselves feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, and exhausted in their relationships. The truth is, boundaries are essential to maintaining healthy relationships and living a meaningful life. When used effectively, they act as a tool for your own wellbeing, not as a means to control others (even though some people in your life may feel that way).


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4 Types of Boundaries in Relationships

Here are four types of boundaries to consider for a healthy relationship: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.

  1. Physical Boundaries – Physical boundaries are important for a healthy relationship and relate to your physical space, your body, and even your possessions. Having physical boundaries in a relationship allows you to feel safe within your environment. You are the one who decides who enters your personal space, how you spend your time, and sets limits around sexual activity. If it hasn’t felt this way, you can begin to explore what setting physical boundaries feels like as it can increase the security of a healthy relationship.
  2. Mental Boundaries – Mental boundaries can include the content you consume, topics of conversation, and what you share with others. Managing boundaries around what you expose yourself to can support healthy relationships with loved ones or even aquaintances around you (includes social media intake, controversial topics with others or even what you share online).
  3. Emotional Boundaries. Emotional boundaries may be one of the most important types of boundaries for a healthy relationship.  This is about your feelings and how you express them, as well as your responsibility for others’ feelings. Maintaining a sense of emotional responsibility for yourself, allowing yourself to feel your feelings and then separating yourself from the responsibility of others’ feelings helps to set the pace for relationships.
  4. Spiritual boundaries – Spiritual boundaries involve your beliefs, values, and purpose in life. Healthy boundaries in this realm means that you define your own sense of meaning and purpose in life and stand up for what you believe in.  This can involve deciding on your own religious or spiritual practices or standing up for yourself when your beliefs and values differ from those around you. Having disagreement about this and living your truth, can sometimes feel like you’re disconnecting from your relationships but in reality it can set a strong precedence for a healthy relationship in the long run.
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